Monday, November 22, 2010

Conflicted

Every year at about this time I am just amazed at how fast the college football season went by.

It's rivalry week again, which means it's the last game of the season again, which means another year has slipped away like a thief in the night. Again.

This year is a little different, though. Whereas I would normally be frothing at the mouth and ripping on Utah every chance I get during Rivalry Week, this year I find myself a bit reserved. And conflicted.

The rivalry has reached new heights of nastiness, in my opinion. Last year it all came to a head when Max Hall went off on the Utes in his post game interview. But that wouldn't have happened if Ute fans wouldn't have acted like complete low-class losers the year before. There is bad behavior on both sides.

This year players, fans and coaches on both sides are calling for more civility in the rivalry. Bronco Mendhenhall especially, as noted in his weekly press conference. I agree with this feeling. The rivalry is getting too bitter, and I want to distance myself from the front lines of the battle.

The problem I face, though, is how do I maintain my passion for BYU, and the spirit of the rivalry, without associating myself with the extremists on both sides?

Let's get one thing straight: Rivalries are good. They are part of the sport, and they are part of what makes college football so great. BYU and Utah have an incredible rivalry--one of the best in the country. I don't want that rivalry to die, but I don't want to end up in a fist-fight with a drunk Ute fan either.

I'm going to try and figure this one out this year. If you guys have any ideas for me, please let me know. In the meantime, Go Cougs, and Screw U!

5 comments:

Benjamin said...

I'm not sure I have any real advice, but I am one of the aforementioned fans who feels the need to rise above the insults and the mockery. I won't be turning on KFAN this week.

I don't think being respectful makes you any less passionate. I had 4-5 friends who made the trek to Dallas for the BYU-Oklahoma game last year. Every one of them said that the OU fans were as knowledgeable and rabid as could be, but when the game was over they tipped their caps and wished my friends a good season. This from a group which had just had their hopes of a national championship dashed before their eyes. Respectful? Yes. Passionate? Absolutely.

We always associate putting down the other team and its fans with passion. I don't see the connection, frankly. You can hate the other team without stooping to the level of the BYU haters or Utah haters.

Not very useful, but I said my peace. Go Cougars.

ali said...

I just have to say that my favorite part of rival week is walking on campus and seeing our statues covered in layers of saran-wrap.

Utahfan said...

Stumbled on your blog and thought I'd make a comment. Hope you don't mind.

I don't think this rivalry is crossing any lines, and both Lavel Edwards and Ron McBride seem to agree. It's suppose to be nasty.

http://www.ksl.com/index.php?nid=294&sid=13367898

Max wasn't the 1st guy who said he hated the other team, and he won't be the last. Alex Smith said the same thing.

Lastly, nobody poured beer on Max Hall's family in 2008. Max fabricated the whole story.
1: People don't sneak beer into the stadium, they sneak flasks. easier to conceal, packs more punch than a couple of beers.
2: Nobody has any alcohol left by the 4th, and even if they did they wouldn't waste it on a BYU fan.

It was just Max's way to justify what he said, which is sad.

Silas said...

I love how you get a ute fan trying to justify things, when we are trying to tone down the rivalry.

To me, it is a matter of having my good friends be my rivals. I have quite a few neighbors who are RABID ute fans, as I am a rabid Cougar fan, but it is all in fun. Yes, we talk smack, but after the game is over, we still talk over the fence about the lawn (or in this case, about the snow...)

There are others at work that I just won't talk to about the rivalry. It gets nasty.

I don't know how to fix things - there is just too much lack of class by the fringes of both sides. I think that getting back to a fun, FRIENDLY rivalry with my friends is the only way to go.

See? Lots of words, and I didn't really say anything.

Cameron said...

Lame excuse Ute fan! That was just weak sauce.

As for the negative aspects of the rivalry, the trick is to not get offended by the actions of the other side, and to be ok if the other team does well. I have relatives and close friends who are big Utah fans and we can talk about the game from both sides.

When I get in trouble is when I take too much pleasure in pushing Ute fan buttons. They just make it so easy. But then it can devolve into the personal and nobody wins.